Our Time Alone

Ready for below zero???? Oh goodness! I love the snow but not below zero...Yikkeeess!

Okay let me get to the subject ...Time alone? Yup, I'm sure all of us do understand the meaning of time alone. Time alone with our Heavenly Father, Time alone with ourselves, quality time with our kiddies and time alone with our spouses. My hubby and I started to have our date night almost 4 years ago. When we got married, we had an agreement that we would try to go out at least once a month and we actually try to take turn of planning our dates even our wedding Anni. It's actually cool and fun coz it gives us time and opportunity to plan for each other. It's been actually tough for the past year only because we just had our youngest baby Kalea and it's just so hard for us to leave her all the time. We feel bad leaving our kids whenever we would go out but we had a heart to heart talk last year that we need to try our best to be consistent of our date night.. Like I said, at least once a month. So, this month it's actually my turn to plan but last night my hubby just felt like going out and had a taste for T-bone steak...lolzzz.. Thank God that I was still at my mom's house when he called. Kalea and I was actually on our way out to go home. So, when my mom overheard me that William wanted to go out.. She said just to go ahead. Thanks to my ever dearest Mom and Dad =) So, I went home and got ready.... I actually wanted to go watch this movie called "Fools Gold" but he wanted to just relax, have coffee and talk..He even asked me to turn off my cell phone.lolz..'Coz he caught me talking to Marge..lol. So, that's what we did.. We went to Denny's.( out of all restaurant). We pick Denny's..Why? I have no idea.lolz...It was relaxing, good coffee and had an awesome fun talk..lol... Then we went to pick up our little one. Then when we got home, we went over our goals and I'll try to blog that sometime this week.

Today, we went to Oak brook office to plan for the Local Event were having next week at Hilton Hotel in Lisle. Man! I missed all of our business partners from different offices. I feel like I haven't seen them for months. 'Coz we actually been busy running our own branch here in Schaumburg. But since the annual convention is coming up this March in Los Angeles, we've decided to go to Oak brook office every Saturday for the next 3 weeks. After Oak brook, my hubby and I had a lunch date at " Buca di beppo" Italian restaurant. YOU all have to go there and try their food.. It's soo delicioso!.. I mean --- I've been to so many Italian restaurants but this place is soo good.... The calamari there is so good.. Best calamari we've ever had. But let me just share you something that happened today before we had our lunch.. We were in the truck about to park, and we saw this lady from far away ( Single Mom) asking for money, homeless. We called her and gave her what we have. But before she left, she told us " My name is Mary, please pray for me and my kids." Oh, that feeling. That's why we can't take advantage of God's blessings to us. Because God is soo good. My husband and I looked at each other 'coz we wanted to invited her to eat with us but she was already gone. But we thank god for the opportunity, even for that one second. God is always with us.

Let me just leave you with this -- I know that many of you are already doing this but I guess it's okay to be reminded sometimes. Here you go....

Don't let your job or the kids or any work or time with friends and extended family interfere with your marriage.
Many couples today find that being married doesn't guarantee that they will have quality time with one another. If you are both busy,( just like me and my husband) you have to plan to spend time together. Here are some ideas ( and I'm sure some of you are already doing this). We just have to stay consistent. Right. =)

1) Schedule a weekend or weekdays just for the two of you. Write it on your calendar, put it on your computer planner, etc. Don't change it for any other event. You don't have to go anywhere or spend money. ( Some people would laugh because my husband used to have palm pilot but now he has this huge daily planner. ) Hey, at least I know we are on his schedule and he always keep his promise to have quality time for me, my kids and the rest of our families. =). I have small calendar & I also have reminder in my computer at work.

2)Have breakfast, lunch or dinner once a week

3)Let your children know that you need time alone together. Tell them that they can knock on your close door if its really URGENT. lolz. I remember telling this to my eldest daughter that " Mommy and Daddy needs to talk". Now, that doesn't work for her anymore 'coz she's almost 13.lolz.( U know what I mean) So, we have to try something else

4)Walk around the block together. ( I actually don't like walking but my husband loves to walk, so he try so hard to encourage me and it actually works. he he he) last summer, we did a lot of roller blading.

5)Do chores together ( like dishes).. We actually try to cook together. That's good too

6)When you are running errands together. Turn off the radio or cell phone and just drive and talk

7)Spend 20 minutes a day. ( Hmm, we try 10 or 15 minutes a day. ) I'm guilty coz I sometimes get caught up with house chores and forget about him. So, i have to remind myself that

8)When you travel together, don't take work on the plane or road trip. Spend that time talking with each other. ( I say this because my husband and i travel all the time) and it helps a lot. =)

Really the bottom line here is if you don't schedule time for one another, you won't have the time... Okay, hope this help

We thank you Lord for the love you have shown us, continue to give us the love, peace and joy in our lives. Continue to guide us Father. For all the things we have gone through, for all the things that we are about to go through, I pray that you will continue to keep our family complete. Guide us and protect us. Give us the patience for our differences. We love you Lord, In Jesus Name, Amen!


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